Personal Growth Principles
Personal Growth Principles
The principle of Living on Purpose
Personal Growth doesn’t happen you have to determine to grow, you have to live on purpose not by accident. Growth happens on purpose, so you have to intend to grow. One man said, “The time comes when you have to stop waiting for the man, or woman, you want to become and start being that man or woman, you want to be.”
There is often a gap between the person we want to be and the person we think we are. The gap you experience may not be the gap someone else is dealing with. In fact you might be dealing with more than one. And these gaps can become traps, but only if you let them.
Gap #1 — The Assumption Gap — I assume that I will automatically grow.
Assumption is the lowest form of knowledge. We experience growth physically as children. We recognize it is a natural course of living over a period of time. We then assume that mental, spiritual, and emotional growth follow a similar pattern. Just live longer and you will grow. This is a fallacy. The reality is we don’t improve by simply living. We have to purpose to grow.
No one improves by accident. If you want your life to improve, you must determine improve yourself. You must make that a tangible target.
Gap #2 — The Knowledge Gap. — I don’t know how to grow.
It has been said, “If you are clear with what you want, the world responds with clarity.”
Many people only learn from the school of hard knocks, — experience — The problem is the lessons are random and difficult. It’s much better to plan your growth deliberately. Invest in you, it’s the wisest investment you will ever make.
Apart from my decision to follow God, the decision to take responsibility for my own personal growth has impacted my life more than any other.
Gap #3 — The Timing Gap — It’s not the right time to begin.
Here you may be trying to blame timing for your lack of action. In this gap we try to pretend that we are serious by indicating that we have decided to do it, what ever it might be, but we are just waiting for the timing to be right.
There is a difference between deciding an doing!
The famous business tycoon W. Clement Stone use to start every morning and by standing at the side of his bed proclaiming out loud, “Do It Now!” He’d do this about 50 times. Then at the end of the day before climbing in bed he would do the same. This, he claimed, preserved him from procrastinating on life.
The Law of Procrastination, says, “The longer you wait to do something you should do now, the greater the more likely that you will never actually do it.”
Now is the time to start growing. If you live for tomorrow it will never come.
You will never get much done unless you go ahead and do it before you feel you are ready. That is Faith in action.
Once you start growing on purpose, you can keep growing and keep asking “What’s next?” This will give you great momentum that you can build upon.
4. The Mistake Gap — I’m afraid of making mistakes
Dr. Robert Schuller said, “If you knew that you could not fail, what would you attempt to do?”
If you want to grow, you need to get over any fear you may have of making mistakes. Mistakes are an indicator of progression. People who do not make mistakes, do not do anything. A mistake is simply another way of doing something, it is a life lesson.
You should expect to make mistakes every day, and welcome them as opportunities to learn, grow and move ahead.
- The Perfection Gap – I have to find the best way before I start.
This is similar to the mistake gap. The road of life requires that we move before we will learn. E.g. learning to ride a bicycle. You don’t learn to ride except by riding. You see the road of life progressively. As you move forward, a little more of the road is revealed to you. Get moving to see more.
- The Inspiration Gap — I don’t feel like doing it.
Motivation is not going to descend upon you from on high. Forget motivation, Just Do It!
Motivation is like love and happiness. It’s a by-product. When you’re actively engaged in doing something, it sneaks up and zaps you when you least expect it. You’re more likely to act yourself into feeling than feel your way into action.
Dr William James said many years ago, “Feelings flow from actions.”
- The Comparison Gap — Others Are Better Than I Am.
That is great because you can learn, only, if others are ahead of you. Get around people who think bigger than you, accomplish more than you do and you will begin to think different and thereby act different and also do differently.
Learn to be comfortable outside of your comfort zone.
- The Expectation Gap — I Thought It Would be Easier.
I don’t know any successful person who thinks personal growth comes quickly and climbing to the top is easy. It just doesn’t happen. People create their own luck. One man said it this way, “The harder I work, the luckier I get.” How? Here is a formula from me.
Decision + Preparation + Attitude + Opportunity + Massive Action = Luck
It all starts with a decision. You have to decide that you are going to take the responsibility for your personal growth. As Jim Rohn said, “You cannot change your destination overnight, but you can change your direction overnight.” Become purpose driven about personal growth. It will, over time, change your life and your destiny.